I have came to realise that the conversations we have about money are not about money.
So often we get stuck in economic pressures, feeling indebted and overwhelmed when we talk about money and then you realise… It is not about money, it’s not even about our behaviour or consumerism, but it’s just about us.
What do we want people to see when they look at us, how people react to us, the adventures we want to embark on, the protection we want for our families, the need to survive, be safe, to be happy, to be recognized and to be someone?
Being someone has a different definition for different people. Success means something different, having something or not having it also has a different definition for different people.
Yet in the end, we will need money to achieve what we set out.
It is thus by the HOW MUCH I WANT IT(being physical things, being experiences, being a legacy), that influences our relationship with money and our relationship with the people that we have.
We all have different ways to approach our money, our specific situations, and often for the average joe public, it’s just simply too much so they play ostrich because they do not know who to TRUST!
AH HA and there we have it. We are not afraid to face our money issues, we are scared that we can’t trust anyone, let alone ourselves. We are afraid that we will feel like failures if we don’t achieve it so we simply just don’t attempt it.
You see, money is not about money but is it about what you want to have, where you want to go and where we can have a fun time, or the legacy you want to leave this earth.
Our inability to seek professional help so that we can change the behaviour is hampered by Trust.
The trust does not simply mean that you are afraid that someone will steal from you, or nor act in your best interest. The lack of trust means that you are afraid that they are going to leave you, or that you will not be able to achieve your goals and be left alone, and simply feel miserable. The fact that you don’t want to feel like a failure so you simply never start.
So money is about money, but not about the money itself but rather the abilities money gives us.
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Barbara Mundell,CFP® BAP(SA)™
Barbara Mundell Consult(PTY)LTD